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Mummy/daddy lets me...

Imagine your child comes back from the other parent and says: "Mummy/daddy lets me eat in my bedroom." (For the sake of this example,...

3 questions to ask yourself before speaking with your children about separation

Una Archer

Apr 11

3 questions to ask yourself before speaking with your children about separation

It was my great pleasure to discuss this topic with Dr Sue Palmer-Conn. Sue is the UK’s only Certified Divorce Coach, Certified...

Una Archer

Nov 6, 2020

Helping children understand separation

"My husband and I recently separated, and my 5-year-old son is having a hard time adjusting. I think social distancing is making it worse...

Would things be easier if only your co-parent changed a bit?

Una Archer

Oct 20, 2020

Would things be easier if only your co-parent changed a bit?

Why focusing on filling up your own cup may be more important. I love how family mediator Louisa Whitney put it: "A commonly held view in...

Successfully handling triggering situations

Una Archer

Oct 14, 2020

Successfully handling triggering situations

Here are a few situations that often bring up triggers for separated parents: · Handovers · Communicating with the other parent: in...

Becoming more comfortable with communicating your boundaries

Una Archer

Oct 3, 2020

Becoming more comfortable with communicating your boundaries

Have you been feeling exhausted lately? Like you don’t have a minute for yourself? Would you rather feel energised and that you do have...

Una Archer

Aug 28, 2020

Peaceful handovers

Think about the upcoming handover and notice how you feel. Notice the thoughts that come up. Notice how your body responds to this...

Una Archer

Jan 28, 2020

Child's experience of separation

Family mediator Louisa Whitney and I explored how a child's experience of separation might be different from their parents' experience.

Co-parenting successfully when you have different parenting styles

Una Archer

Mar 20, 2019

Co-parenting successfully when you have different parenting styles

Suggestions for managing different parenting styles in a co-parenting relationship

A simple way to think about co-parenting

Una Archer

Mar 12, 2019

A simple way to think about co-parenting

Ideas to help you simplify things a bit, let go of things that are not essential and make more space for what is important for you.

3 ways to de-stress talking with the other parent

Una Archer

Jan 17, 2019

3 ways to de-stress talking with the other parent

Your time is precious. Your time with your children is precious. How you feel about yourself when you talk with ex is important.

Una Archer

Jun 22, 2018

When your child has BIG feelings...

You can find yourself feeling torn between wanting to make the big feelings to go away and feeling helpless because it is not happening.

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Parenting after Separation Blog

Mummy/daddy lets me...

3 questions to ask yourself before speaking with your children about separation

Helping children understand separation

Would things be easier if only your co-parent changed a bit?

Successfully handling triggering situations

Becoming more comfortable with communicating your boundaries

Peaceful handovers

Child's experience of separation

Co-parenting successfully when you have different parenting styles

A simple way to think about co-parenting

3 ways to de-stress talking with the other parent

When your child has BIG feelings...

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