Family mediator Louisa Whitney and I explored this and some other questions in this podcast. 

It was great to be interviewed by Christina Vinters, the Founder of Modern Separations. Our conversation focused on managing different parenting styles in a co-parenting relationship - you can find it here. 

(This blog post was created together with Louisa Whitney. She is a family mediator from LKW Family Mediation who set up her own family mediation practice in 2013.  She brings together separating couples to help them talk about what’s important to them so they can find...

It can be very difficult to see your child go through intense emotions.

Stopped in their tracks by fear...

Swept away by anger...

Sitting in the massive pool of sadness...

You can find yourself feeling torn between wanting to fix it asap, to make it go away and feelin...

We went on a camping trip a few years ago. A real adventure – we lived in the tent for five weeks. We loved most of it and it was just as lovely to come back home into our 'holding' environment.

When I got back home, I realised that for the whole 5 weeks I was in the st...

I noticed that I become a different person when my children are with their dad. Well, not completely different, but different enough to notice.

I have more headspace.

My shoulders drop and I feel the lovely wave of relaxation and letting go through the whole of my body.

A...

 
Do you sometimes feel like you are two different people when you are comforting your child and when you are telling them off?
 
Would you rather spend more time being the first and less time being the second?
 
Say you are trying to stop your children from picking ho...

How often do you find yourself asking your child to do something they don’t want to do, or asking them to not do something they want to do?

Let me venture a guess – it feels like it is way too often...

One of my favourite quotes about parenting from Janet Lansbury goe...

The good news is that if you are asking yourself this question you are already 80% ahead of the game. Sometimes it is easy to be with your child’s upset, you feel like you can hold them and comfort them and soothe them as looooooooong as they need you to. And sometimes...